Although putting into practice what one preaches is oftentimes easier said than done, I believe the best way to deal with those people is to promptly (and civilly) tell them they’ve crossed the line and that their behavior will not be tolerated. Also, I think women, in general, have a much harder time than men expressing justified anger. Somehow, we are programmed to think being angry at someone is bad. Repressing that healthy “anger” with line-crossing bullies, however, is the worst thing one can do.

In your brilliant dog park analogy, if the victim dog could speak in those moments before the inappropriate humping, I think it might go something like this: “Just who the he** do you think you are coming over here invading my space, you jack-faced jerk?! You so much as lift your leg an inch off the ground, and I’m gonna rip you a new one!” To which the offending dog sheepishly replies, “Sure, Rosie; thanks for the heads up. I’ll be over there next to the oak tree in case you want to start a game of tag.” 🙂

The trouble is, humans aren’t as smart as dogs. Sheesh.

I will have to. 🙂

Thanks, Pamela. I don’t like the idea of being a jerk either… guess I have to hope to find some sort of middle ground. Or, if you’re successful in rewriting the game, I’d love some tips. 🙂

If you’re ever forced into the leg hump, will you post a picture?

I’ve been pondering the Jerk at work article for over a month myself. I see the truth in it. But I’m not sure I want to game the existing system.

I think I’d rather rewrite the entire game.

I wish you luck in finding your path with these issues.

I find those little niceties aren’t valued much. But I find that my ability to collaborate well with people helps me be more productive.

I wish it were valued as much by others.

Yes, but if we have to behave ourselves, why doesn’t everyone else? 🙂