Comments on: The Puppiness Project – Choose Your Friends Wisely

By: Greyhounds CAN Sit

Greyhounds CAN Sit — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 06:23:09 +0000

When I read this I thought about some blogs I read and used to religiously comment on every post … without ever getting even one reciprocal comment back. I might not be an extrovert but even an introvert likes to be acknowledged so I’ve reluctantly decided to whittle down my blogroll mostly to people who understand the ebbs and flows of life and blogging and hang in there with you (me!). These people are worth my time and effort, when I eventually get the time to put the effort in. The same with real world friends. I’m probably not making any sense, my brain is mush right now, yesterday I didn’t even recognise my own car, lol!

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 02:23:04 +0000

I need one metaphorical Honey in my life, pronto! I am so Eddie in one aspect of my real life, but the other dog just wants to sniff all up in my bits – endlessly. Wagh! Please turn this into a book, Pamela, so I can casually send it to that person. Pleeeeeeeze.

P.S. I get my feelings hurt easily, too. But, I don’t know how to touch noses, I just run away with my tail tucked between my legs. sigh

By: 2 brown dawgs

2 brown dawgs — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 00:52:42 +0000

You are nicer than I am. I would have moved on to other friends.

By: Amy@GoPetFriendly

Amy@GoPetFriendly — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 02:53:48 +0000

There’s no doubt it’s sometimes difficult to find the right balance in a friendship. Being on the road full-time has made it harder for me to be a good friend, simply because I’m not there to grab a cup of coffee or go for brunch and keep up with daily life. There is no doubt some friendships have faded, but when we get together some others, it’s like no time has passed at all. It’s a pretty terrific thing.

By: RumpyDog!

RumpyDog! — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 15:33:46 +0000

I am an extrovert and I want everyone to be happy! Jen is an introvert. While she loves people, she also treasures her alone time. She’s weird.

By: melF

melF — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:41:11 +0000

In reply to Karen Friesecke. That's funny Karen. I hadn't thought of that before, but I have seen that with other pups. Maybe being more discerning comes with age and wisdom?

By: Kristine

Kristine — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 17:17:42 +0000

Perhaps in some ways being a total introvert makes it a bit easier when it comes to friendships. I usually have no expectation of making friends with someone. I am an incredibly private person (not that you’d know it to read my blog) and it takes a long time for me to open up, if ever. For the most part I am content to listen and be there for someone without any expectation they will do the same for me. This has, however, caused problems in other ways as I am sure you can imagine.

Relationships are hard. A wise person is like Honey and understands when a relationship is worth working for and when it’s not. If only we all could be so perceptive!

By: Pup Fan

Pup Fan — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 16:05:12 +0000

Seems like you and I have a lot in common. I’m also an extrovert, and I can’t help but feel quite agitated when someone doesn’t like me or want to be my friend – I’m also prone to bouts of despair when someone doesn’t seem to value me as a friend as much as I’ve valued them – when the effort put into the friendship seems unbalanced. I’ve probably continued many friendships long past their natural expiration date through my sheer inability to admit that the friendship wasn’t worth saving. It’s definitely something I need to work on.

By: Jodi

Jodi — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 15:16:42 +0000

That is a really sweet sentiment and a great lesson. I try too hard to get people to like me and when they don’t recipricate in the same way I usually end up with hurt feelings. I need to develope Honey’s philosphy and just let it be.

Thanks, I think I’m learning a lot this week!

By: Thomas Aaron

Thomas Aaron — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 14:35:18 +0000

Good points. There is a lot we can learn from our dogs. As a dog trainer in Denver who deals with a lot of broken dogs, here is a lesson that dawned on me a while back.

While dogs can certainly be conditioned to dislike certain things or people, they USUALLY are pretty quick forgivers and are open to reconciliation. Humans could benefit by being a little more like this.

Thanks for your excellent thoughts.