Gretchen Rubin wrote in The Happiness Project about the year she spent “test-driving the wisdom of the ages, the current scientific studies, and the lessons from popular culture about how to be happy.” The Puppiness Project is my attempt to learn the same from Honey, my Golden Retriever.
The Watchful Dog
Honey looked concerned.
Mike was packing the rental car. I was trying to convince Honey to take a walk before we left.
No doing. Honey wouldn’t go any farther than she could see the car. Something was happening and she was a little worried about being left behind.
It happens every time we pack up for a trip.
Are we going together? Will Honey stay behind? Will we be back together soon? You can almost read the questions in her fuzzy, wrinkled brow.
Once we load her into the car, she instantly relaxes. She knows what’s going on now. Her universe is back in order. We’re all together.
And, as long as we’re together, nothing too bad can happen to her.
Do You Trust the Universe to Take Care of You?
My friend uses an interesting phrase when she’s making life-changing decisions. She says she trusts the universe to take care of her.
By that, she’s saying that she’ll do her best to make wise choices. But, in the end, she believes things will work out ok and she won’t find herself living under a bridge and starving to death. She’ll figure out what she needs to do to keep things from getting too dire.
You might think that philosophy comes from never having suffered. But my friend has had her share of sorrows, like anyone. Her life has not always been easy.
But she has an underlying optimism.
When I hear my friend say she trusts the universe to take care of her, I think of all the ways she has helped the universe do just that. She’s intelligent, highly skilled, continually learning, and very resilient. She’s spent decades honing skills that put her in a good place. So if one of her plans goes wrong, she won’t be sitting around waiting for the universe to surprise her with a solution. My friend has built the solutions to her problems all along.
Do You Trust Yourself?
When my friend asks me if I trust the universe to take care of me, I think about it and suppose I do.
I look back at my life and see how lucky I’ve been.
- I was born middle-class in North America (although, unfortunately, not Canadian; I guess we can’t have it all).
- I live in a mild climate, free of dangerous weather extremes.
- I have a supportive family.
- I have enough native intelligence to allow me varied and safe work.
- I have crazy good health.
It seems to me the universe has been pretty darn kind.
So what holds me back when I’m trying to make a change? After all, the universe has not let me down yet.
I don’t trust myself.
I know the universe has heaped tons of luck on my head. I’ve been building skills my entire life. But, when it comes down to it, I know I’m the weak link. If everything lined up perfectly, I’d find some way to sabotage myself.
I don’t think I’m alone. Am I?
The Dog Trusts the Universe
One of the nice things about being a dog is you don’t over think things.
Honey observes luggage coming out of the house and knows something is going on. She shows some concern. But she also has over two years of experience that let her know we won’t leave her without responsible care.
Even when Honey doesn’t travel with us, we leave her with someone she’ll find fun. And once the uncertainty about what’s happening resolves, Honey settles in quickly, without signs of stress.
We’re her universe. And she trusts us to take care of her.
But even more importantly, Honey understands her place in the universe (the doggy-sized universe, not the entire cosmos). She feels loved. She acts on that feeling. And she’s secure.
And from that place of safety, Honey is learning all kinds of interesting things.
I need to learn from Honey:
- The universe hasn’t let me down yet.
- I have skills that will get me through any number of setbacks.
- I have a place of value in my universe and should feel secure in that knowledge.
And if I never learn enough faith in the universe from Honey to set the world on fire, maybe I can learn just enough to create a bit of mischief.
Do you trust the universe to take care of you? Does your dog?
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