Gretchen Rubin wrote in The Happiness Project about the year she spent “test-driving the wisdom of the ages, the current scientific studies, and the lessons from popular culture about how to be happy.” The Puppiness Project is my attempt to learn the same from Honey, my Golden Retriever.
Saturday night we went out to the marina to watch the boats coming in for the night. We spotted a powerboat with a beautiful Golden Retriever and we smiled and waved to each other. A half hour later, the boat’s owner walked over so Lucia and Honey could meet.
Honey was very excited. She gave her best play bow. Her butt wiggle. Her spin around on the end of the leash. But Lucia wasn’t interested. So we coaxed Honey away while we continued to talk to Lucia’s person.
Eventually, we saw Lucia start to warm up. She walked over to sniff Honey. Then she play bowed. And soon they were off in a wrestling mass of golden fur.
Lucia wasn’t sure about Honey at first. But Honey didn’t hold back in letting Lucia know she was interested in playing.
I meet all kinds of folks who are just as interesting in their own way as Lucia the Golden Retriever was to Honey. And yet I find it hard to reach out to them in the way that Honey does (although I have an adorable play bow, if I do say so myself).
Old high school and college friends have me thinking twice before I send a Facebook request. Will they remember me? Am I being too forward if I invite someone from work over for drinks on the porch after dinner? Will the person who writes that neat blog think I’m stalking them if I send a friendly email? If I knock on my neighbor’s door, will she hide in the closet until she thinks I’m gone?
Being an extrovert means you want to spend more time around people. It doesn’t mean you’re good at it.
So I need to channel a little more Golden Retriever. Maybe it’s time to grab a blond wig, get my “Honey” on, and make a point of meeting someone new. And maybe even letting them know I’d like to be their friend.