Gretchen Rubin wrote in The Happiness Project about the year she spent “test-driving the wisdom of the ages, the current scientific studies, and the lessons from popular culture about how to be happy.” The Puppiness Project is my attempt to learn the same from Honey, my Golden Retriever.
I’m infatuated with my dog.
I think about her all the time. I wonder what she’s thinking about. I hope she cares as much about me as I care about her.
Sometimes I wonder if I should feel guilty about that. After all, I’ve been married for twenty-two years to a man who probably wishes I was writing that about him.
But here’s the thing–infatuation happens when you’re just getting to know someone. Once you discover everything there is to know about someone, infatuation disappears. Hopefully it’s replaced with deep love.
With Honey, there will always be a mystery. I’ll never know her inside and out. She doesn’t speak English. Her nose understands things I’ll never know. So I’ll probably be infatuated forever.
But here’s what I’ve learned. If the fun of infatuation comes from getting to know someone, you can get to know someone all over again when you experience new things together. The mystery returns when you wonder how someone will respond to new challenges. And with it comes the infatuation.
My husband and I are learning to sail. Yesterday, he docked a sail boat for the very first time–it was like a hot knife cutting through butter. I was very proud.
Honey better watch out–she might not be my only infatuation for long.