People are so rough on themselves this time of year.
Everyone feels dissatisfied and is vowing to do better. My Facebook feed hums with people making resolutions for 2015.
Luckily, our dogs set a good example for us. They know life couldn’t possibly get any better. Unless it included more treats, tennis balls, or cuddling.
Perfect The Way You Are
Last year, and in previous years, I sponsored a Train Your Dog Month Challenge.
I love the idea of dedicating a month to training goals that build our bonds with our dogs. I just don’t have the energy to lead. But if you do, you’ll find great resources from the Association of Pet Dog Trainers who started Train Your Dog Month.
Instead, I’m wrapped up in anxiety about getting our house ready to sell so we can move toward our dream of sailing off on new adventures with Honey.
My house is over 100 years old. And every time I turn around, something else breaks.
Besides that, I’m having trouble seeing my house’s charm. I can’t stop finding flaws in it. Things that need to be fixed.
I’m as rough on my house as I am on myself.
So I won’t spend January 2015 trying to improve myself or Honey and certainly not my husband.
Hopefully I can find my inner Zen and realize that everything is perfect just the way it is, even if it’s not perfect. And to keep making baby steps toward living my dream.
I’m reading a book about riding a bicycle across the U.S. Last night I found a great quote:
When you move forward, even slowly, things change; when you stand still, they don’t.
– Bruce Weber, Life Is A Wheel
Like taking a long bike ride, we only progress if we keep moving forward. There’s no point in lamenting how far we have to go. It does nothing to help us reach our goals.
So I’m issuing a challenge to myself. And to you too, if you want to accept it:
Move forward toward making a dream come true. But do it with as much kindness toward yourself as if you were training your own dog.
Take One Step Closer To Your Dream
Honey’s trainer gave us excellent advice for working with a timid dog: “If you think you’re going too slow, go slower.”
It’s not bad advice for a human trying to pursue a scary or overwhelming personal goal either.
I’d never get angry with Honey because she’s unwilling to walk on a ramp for a piece of liverwurst without some baby steps to help her get there. Why am I so impatient with myself for struggling to shrink a life lived for fourteen years in a 1300 square foot house into one that will fit into a 30+ foot sailboat?
When Honey looked toward her scary ramp or bike cart, we gave her a treat. If she moved a foot toward the frightening item, she got another treat.
Every tiny step Honey took to doing something new and scary was a triumph.
Any step we take closer to our dreams is forward motion. And it’s better than standing still.
Emptying yet another file into the recycling bin is moving me closer to my dream. So is moving the dining room furniture into the center of the room so I can touch up the trim paint. And starting a box for things to give to the Salvation Army.
No one will make a video about my progress. But at least I’m moving one step closer to my dream.
How about you?