Grieving rituals are the first step in turning wrenching loss into acceptance, and ultimately, joyful memories.
Meaningful rituals range from the sublime to the ridiculous. And are as varied as the relationships we have with the animals we’re blessed to share our lives with.
The Memorial Garden
Each beloved pet’s gravesite is marked with a plant that blooms around the time of their death. The miniature gardens bring together a shared love of animals and plants. I was very touched reading this post.
Along with the sorrow that never disappears when we lose someone we love, I’m sure the sight of those blooms also brings joy and happy memories to the 24 Paws family.
He’ll Always Be With Us
When I was a child, a family friend had a pet raccoon. He lived in a hutch outdoors. But this born-wild raccoon was friendly enough to perch on Anna’s shoulder for snacks and lovies.
When Peppy died, George and Anna called the taxidermist. Their beloved friend kept watch over the living room from his post on the fireplace mantle.
Anna liked to stroke his fur. She found it comforting to know Peppy would be with her for years to come.
Crafting a Memory
If you search the craft website Etsy for pet memorials, you’ll hundreds of carvings, urns, and even jewelry.
For about $600, you can have some of your pet’s ashes enclosed in a turquoise and titanium ring.
Jewelry is probably the most intimate way to keep your pet close to you after their passing. I can imagine the comfort of twisting a ring or fiddling with a charm on a bracelet like a rosary that helps one meditate on happy times with a loved one.
Looking Into Your Eyes Once Again
I’ve never lived where I could bury my pets in my yard.
I love the idea of a memorial garden. But plants call me the Black Thumb of Death and I’d just feel bad if I killed the plant meant to remind me of my beloved dog.
I’m not too excited about keeping any of my dogs stuffed by my side. For me, it’s their spirit and personality that I’ve lost. So I don’t personally find it comforting to keep their physical presence with me, even as ashes.
It’s become very important to me to have a lovely, framed portrait of my dogs. I like looking up and seeing their lovely faces and the light in their eyes.
A picture helps me feel closer to Agatha, Christie, and Shadow than any other memorial I could find.
Yes, I’m sad when I think of how much I miss them. But I’m filled with joy to have had each one in my life. And I’m touched to remain in the presence of their beauty.
A Lovely Portrait of Your Dog
Now wouldn’t that be a lovely way to remember your dog?
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Do you remember your past pets in a special way? How?
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