When Honey sees someone she wants to greet, she starts off by slowly swishing her tail.
If she gets the least little encouragement, she starts dancing in place. Front paw up, both rear paws hop.
When her new “friend” comes over to say hello, Honey explodes with joy. She spins around. She leans into the person. She lifts her paws over and over.
There’s no mistaking Honey’s happiness.
Occasionally someone is overwhelmed by Honey’s greeting so I make her sit down. But most people get a big shot of self-esteem from feeling so loved.
I’ve got to learn how to do that.
The Bad Side of Cool
Over the years, my husband has described me and some of our other friends as “cool.”
I thought I knew what he meant. We lean back and wait for things to come to us. We take our time to see if something is worthy before expressing our approval of it.
We’re like perpetual teenagers.
But cool has a bad side: an inability to spontaneously feel and hang onto joy.
Honey is never cool. And she has a blast.
Throwing Away Cool
Yesterday was a beautiful day.
We kayaked up our creek with Honey and a picnic lunch. We totally broke the law by pulling our kayaks up onto the shore of the lakefront park (no dogs allowed; but goose poop is in plentiful supply). And then we spent the day eating, playing with Honey, talking, watching the fishermen, and reading.
Normally I’d arrive home and say, “That was fun” before going onto the next thing on my mind. I’d play it cool.
But instead, I’m channeling Honey.
I keep telling Mike how much fun the day was for me and how much I enjoyed being with him and Honey. I look back and remember the perfect weather and pretty spot under the trees. I don’t think I actually danced, like Honey does. But I’ll try that soon.
I allowed myself to embrace the joy of a lovely day. And I’m going to try to hang onto it.
Dogs Express Their Feelings
Dogs are not cool. That’s more true for some dogs than others. But no dog hides his feelings behind a mask of cool.
You see how a dog feels by looking at his ears, his mouth, his tail. Heck, just look at how relaxed or stiff his whole body is.
Coming home to find a dog who’s happy to see us is one of the great joys of the world.
So why wouldn’t we humans want to give that joy to the people around us? Instead of trying to act cool all the time.
Maybe it’s time to stop playing it cool. And time to act more like a dog.
What do you think?