Honey Asks for Nurturing
Honey has been a little clingy lately. It happens sometimes after we send a foster dog home.
When I sit on the couch, Honey rests her head on my knee. When I get down on the floor to sort laundry, she comes in close for a hug. And when I go to the basement, her least favorite part of the house, she follows to keep an eye on me.
I don’t know if she’s missing her playmate, our foster dog Ginny, or if she’s just making up for sharing our affections.
Either way, she needs a little nurturing. And she’s not afraid to ask for it.
Hard to Ask for Nurturing
I hate to ask for help.
Once, after giving blood, I started to pass out on a city bus. It was rush hour and I was standing. Even as I felt myself losing consciousness, I couldn’t bring myself to ask anyone for a seat.
Instead, I signalled for a stop and managed to stumble down the steps despite having totally blacked out. Once I recovered myself, I walked eight blocks home. Yep, stupid.
I need to take a lesson from Honey and ask for what I need.
From Nurturer to Nurtured
I’m not the only person who has this problem. Luckily I do live with someone who is a willing nurturer.
No, not Honey. She doesn’t care if I have a fever and have been projectile vomiting for two days. When she needs to play in the snow, she needs to play in the snow.
I’m talking about my husband. But I have to ask for what I need.
Young, married women (including myself, years ago) say, “If he really loved me, I wouldn’t have to ask.”
Malarkey. Do you expect your dog to know what you want from him without asking him? Well then treat your husband with as much respect as your dog. Ask for the nurturing you need.
What Honey Needs
Honey doesn’t know it yet, but some friends of hers are coming to stay with us for a while. Remember Mr. Handsome and his sister, Li’l Punkin Butt? They’ll be visiting until the end of the month.
For a while, she’ll be too busy playing and scrambling for a seat on the couch to need much nurturing from me. But when they go home, my fuzzy little girl will be back looking for nurturing care.
How will I know? Because she’ll ask me. And asking for the nurturing we need is good for my dog. It’s also good for me.
Your Turn: Are you good at asking for the nurturing you need? How about your dog? How does your dog tell you he needs extra TLC?